You know, there are things that are more difficult about being an adoptive mama. There are challenges that bio-moms never have to go through (you wimps!).
*But*, there are somethings that are way easier. I can honestly say that I didn’t stress even for a minute about what crib to buy. I just smiled and said “thank you” a bunch of times as I picked up hand-me-downs in our frantic attempt to get ready for two kids and the start of our insta-family. I didn’t give a second thought to what brand of formula. In fact, I had three kids before I even had to buy a can of formula (and then I bought what they told me to at the WIC office). I never had to debate between breast fed and formula fed.
One time, last summer, I was at our very cool local toy store (brilliantsky.com) chatting with some of the other moms and the topic of schools came up. Frankly, it really didn’t enter my mind that I should be worried about not sending our kids to our local public schools. We moved to this area because the schools are good. And I had no reason not to trust. (It’s worked out really well, too)
At the zoo this week I was very envious of the mom with one well behaved four year old. I looked at how easy it seemed. She wasn’t yelling or cajoling. She didn’t have to have her eyes pointed in different directions. She wasn’t being pulled on by kids. She had that tiny, little, one-kid stroller!
Then I remembered that my kids have friends with them at all times. Even though they’re high energy, they always have someone to soothe them, someone to play with, someone to just be with…
I’ve never been a mom to a singleton. I skipped that whole phase.
And I think that I might be the lucky one.