Attachments are like a spider web. They build one upon another. Just like making friends. You make one, then you meet their friends and add to the group.
One of the most common issues (in my opinion) that foster and adoptive kids have is attachment disorder.
So, I’ve started to educate myself. I’ve taken classes in the past about infant brain development. And the common thread is always that the first three years are crucial. That children need to trust by having one primary care giver.
But, what happens when they don’t get that? The short answer is that their brains don’t form the same as typical kids. Parts of the brain that aren’t used, don’t develop the same way. With neglect, the brain is often physically smaller than a typical child.
I’ve seen the slides and the photos and the evidence.
I’ve never had anyone tell me what to do after the fact.
Last night I was given hope for the first time. This damage can be reversed! I took the first class in a four part series on attachment disorders. The leader is a therapist that specializes in attachments and I’m so excited. I am hoping that this training will help me be a better parent.
Already, I feel better just thinking that I can actually undo some of the damage.