Another year has passed… And, when it was starting, I thought that there was no way possible for 2019 to be worse than 2018. But, we still had a few more hard knocks as we started 2019.
B was fired, via text, the day after Christmas 2018. It was not cool at all, but it was good… Brian has been able to devote more time and effort to his own business. He is enjoying working with various podcasts. And he loves being his own boss. He has also been able to say yes to much more contract work. It was scary as we started 2019 without a steady income, but it has worked out well. He is much happier in his current work situation and we are all happy that he has found his next step.
D ended 2018 in an ok space, but it was not without some issues. He had been applying for jobs for months and had no luck. He was also frustrated with his school. And, this year has not been without its challenges for him and for us as his parents. He ran away earlier this year. That feels like a lifetime ago. And I am so very glad that it does! He also bought and wrecked his first car this year. I think we all could have done without the accident, but he wasn’t hurt. He now has a job that he enjoys and we are hoping it may inspire him down the road. And, he has found a church home and a passion for the skateboard.
Little d… We were just at the tail end of his second in patient stay for some mental health issues. He has done so well this year! He has learned to trust a few adults, he has learned to talk about his emotions. He also got a job, his first, and is there as I am typing this. He has also continued to enjoy theater and FFA at his school.
V. When the Fall semester ended, V was suspended from his school. He did not get expelled, but it was looking like a matter of when rather than if it would happen. So, we changed schools starting January of 2019. It was a rocky start, adjusting to an online school rather than a brick and mortar school is harder than we anticipated. But, I can happily say that this last quarter has been his best in middle school! Like all of us, he has had his ups and downs. We were hoping to have him back in a regular public school this year, but it just didn’t happen. The biggest positive has been me getting to know him. With me working at home and him doing school at home, we spend a lot of time together. Like all of the time! We now share a love of memes and he has developed some mad laundry skills. Looking ahead, we are still planning a return to a typical school in 2020, but we have proven that he can succeed in an online school, so there are lots of options for the future. He went to camp over the Summer with d and they both loved it. He used to be the last kid to want to go outside, but it is changing. He is now spending as much time as possible at the skate park.
Lastly the Bean. She is doing well. However, she is now a teenager! She is loving middle school and has found a circle of friends. She continues to be a Girl Scout and compete in Winter Guard. We did see her a whole lot less in 2019 than 2018.. we are fairly certain her goal is to spend as many nights at other people’s homes as possible. But, I know that she still likes us, somewhere deep inside, at least.
Me? Well, 2019 was rough. While I mentioned the job stuff with B, I left out the massive flood and 3 month long rebuild of our bathroom, bedroom and most of our living room. I also left out the selling of our rental. That sale meant hours and hours and $$$$$ on repairs. And it took so long! But, it is done. The stress of all that has happened has been really hard on me mentally. I somehow manage to keep it together during the worst of the worst, but then I have been breaking down as soon as we get back to “normal”. The good news from that is that I have been seeing a therapist and managing my medications. I also am back in the gym. It hasn’t been the hours and hours that I used to. And, I am still not back to running, but it is something!
So, I think that we spent the first half of this year still fighting, still battling on so many fronts. But, each individual is doing better.
The state of the family is good. Busy and a little messy, but good.